Wanting something just because you can't have it

I find that to be one of the saddest aspects of the human condition.

Everything we can't have suddenly becomes more desirable. People we can't have are suddenly attractive. People that come too easy and like you too much, become less attractive for that reason only, even if objectively speaking they have every quality you want in a person.

People that don't give you the time of day and treat you like shit are desireable because somewhere in the back of our minds, that translates into a superior attitude that makes us believe that they are somehow better than us. And because we perceive them as 'quality', we want them.

This leads to an endless cycle of pain. You want them because they don't want you and, by the same logic, the more you want them, the less attractive you are to them. You will not get them until you stop wanting them, and by that time that will not be a satisfaction  for you.

I cannot offer a solution here. The heart wants what the heart wants, and it's something we can't control. But maybe if we become more aware of WHY it wants what it wants, maybe then we can at least temper it and ease our pain.